Couples & Pre-Marital Counseling
Getting married is one of life’s most treasured experiences. Premarital counseling can help you and your partner turn that momentous occasion into a loving, lasting relationship.
When you’re considering marriage, deciding on your honeymoon or figuring out where you want to live are among the first things you start to plan. Premarital counseling might be last on your list, if it’s there at all. While it’s not an engagement topic that’s very fun or romantic, premarital counseling can set your marriage up to succeed and survive long-term, despite the odds.
Premarital counseling can help you and your significant other improve your relationship by helping you develop better communication skills, learn conflict management, uncover your shared core values as well as identify differences that could create future conflict. Working with a therapist, you can discuss expectations with your partner that will help better prepare both of you for marriage.
In pre-marital counseling, we will likely bring up topics that you’ve discussed with your partner previously, as well as subjects you hadn’t considered before. This fresh perspective from an objective third party will uncover new details from your partner. This is also an excellent time for us to find unexpected areas where you disagree, and give you the tools to handle possible future conflict.
All couples experience conflict. For some it is about money, for others, it is about parenting, intimacy, or a pattern of constant arguing.
Therapy can help. Contrary to popular belief, couples therapy isn’t about who did what or who is to blame, but rather providing tools for communicating and asking for what you need.
According to the American Psychological Association, 75% of couples who opt for therapy say it improves their relationship.
Many couples struggle together for years before trying therapy, however, unhealthy behavior and resentful feelings become more difficult to change the longer they continue.
A major roadblock is when only one person in the relationship is wanting change and is willing to engage in counseling. Ultimately, both people have to be willing to participate.
Some issues that may bring you and your partner to couples therapy are:
- Feeling as though you are growing apart
- You are clashing about money or parenting
- One or both of you have been unfaithful
- Your love life is lacking
- You want to avoid divorce or have an amicable one
- You’re going through a big transition, whether it is positive or negative
- You have a lot of unproductive and hurtful arguments
- One or both of you has a chronic medical or mental health issue or addiction
- You are blending families
- You are experiencing difficulties related to extended family members
With couples counseling, you will learn how to communicate your feelings and needs, manage conflict, overcome obstacles, and celebrate successes.